What Do You Do When Your Child Cries?

What Do You Do When Your Child Cries?

All normal babies cry to communicate with others. Since they can’t express their feelings in words crying is the only way for communication. Crying is a physiological process in the life of a baby. If any uncomfortable feeling comes they simply cry.


Normally babies cry in situations like hunger, wetting, too hot or cold, tight clothes, pain etc. Some kids need the presence of somebody otherwise will cry simply. Crying without any cause is habitual in some babies.


Even though crying is considered as normal it may worry the family members. Since the reasons for crying ranges from simple causes to serious causes it should not be ignored and hence exact cause has to be identified and managed accordingly.


The following are some points which should be considered while dealing with a crying baby.


1. It is dangerous to shake the baby vigorously.

2. Tight clothes can cause irritation hence it should be removed.

3. If the room is hot put the fan and open the windows.

4. If the nappy is wet remove it and after cleaning the parts make it dry with a soft towel.

5. Pat their back or stroke their head slowly and let her here your soothing sound.

6. Give them breast milk and make them quiet.

7. If the climate is too cold cover them in soft towel.

8. Rock them gently in your arms and walk slowly in the room.

9. Take a music making doll and let them listen.

10. Try a pacifier to offer help for thumb sucking.

11. If no response change her position.

12. Walk with them outdoors.

13. Put them on the cradle and rock gently.

14. If no response ask somebody to carry the baby.


Even after all these steps the baby continues to cry check for the following signs.

(The probable cause is given after every sign)


1. Press their abdomen gently, she may twist or resist you.  (Cause-Colic)

2. Pull their ear gently she may become worse or push your hands away (Cause-Earache)

3. Feel their temperature with the back of your hands (Cause-Fever due to any infection)

4. Examine the skin from head to foot (Cause-Eruptive disease, rash, measles, vesicles, allergy etc.)

5. Check the nose for any discharge (Cause-Coryza)

6. Move the head gently to feel any neck stiffness (Cause-Meningitis, head injury etc.)

7. Keep your ear near their chest to hear any rattling sound (Indicating increased mucus in wind pipes)  (Cause-pneumonia, bronchiolitis, asthamatic bronchitis etc.)

8. Examine the anal orifice (Cause-Anal erosion, rectal polyp, crawling of worms)

9. Examine the genitalia (Cause-Any discharge or erosion)

10. In male baby see the testicles which may be swollen or tender (Cause- Orchitis, torsion of testes)

11. You should also notice the body movements and see for any convulsions, rigors, vomiting, cough, labored breathing etc.


If you see the above signs or any other abnormal signs consult your doctor for proper treatment.


Letting Your Baby ‘Cry It Out’ Doesn’t Make You a Bad Parent

Babies cry. It’s a fact. Next to pooping and sleeping, it’s what they do best.


Why they cry can be anyone’s guess. They could be wet, hungry, tired, scared, confused, sick, or just need some attention. They can’t talk yet, so crying is the closest thing to a language they have.

For the most part, it works. You hear your baby cry, you quickly try to figure out what’s wrong and rectify the problem. Crying baby = bad. That’s what we’re instinctively taught.



But at what point do we stop listening to our instincts? When babies cry all night long unless you’re holding them, should you be comforting them or do you need to give them some tough love?



When our oldest child was a baby, he was a terrible sleeper. We’d put him in his crib and maybe he’d last an hour. Things got so bad at one point that he literally woke up every 45 minutes. That’s just not healthy for anyone.



The baby would be tired and cranky. We would be beyond exhausted the next day, which doesn’t do us or the baby any good. I’d be so wiped out as I headed off to work that I would pass out under my desk when the boss wasn’t around.


No, something had to be done. We started discussing the Ferber Method, we knew it was time to give it a shot. Ferberizing involves putting your baby down for the night and letting him “cry it out.” It’s done slowly over a few nights.


I still remember that first night of just letting him wail for five minutes in his crib as we sat on the living room couch staring at each other. Believe it or not, five minutes is an excruciatingly long time when you’re listening to your child scream bloody murder.


As soon as the clock hit five minutes, one of us would BOLT down the hall to pick him up, comfort him, and put him back in the crib. Then we’d wait 10 minutes and repeat, adding five minutes on to each round. I think we got up to 30 minutes that first night before he finally fell asleep for good that night. It was certainly a long night.


The second night was slightly easier. It was still painful to sit there listening to him cry, but by the third and fourth night, we saw a massive improvement. He’d still cry but only for about five or ten minutes and then fall asleep. We were shocked. It actually worked.


Now it wasn’t a perfect science and he didn’t magically just sleep through the night from that moment on. But going from waking up every 45 minutes to falling asleep in 10 minutes and sleeping for a few hours at a time was a big win in our book!


Ferberizing truly taught us the phrase, “This will hurt me more than it will hurt you.” It was extremely hard to do — you need incredible patience and a strong will not to run into your baby’s room the second he or she starts crying.


It may sound completely cruel on the surface. Your baby’s crying and you’re just ignoring him? He may think you’ve completely abandoned him, the poor thing. He could be terrified! Yeah, all that ran through our minds too. But we realized that letting your baby cry it out does not make you a bad parent.


If you run to your kids every single time they start crying and simply comfort them, how are they ever going to learn how to soothe themselves? Sure, every kid is different and will learn this on their own at their own pace. So it’s up to you whether you want to try the cry it out method or not.


All I know is that when this kid becomes a teenager who sleeps until noon every weekend, I cannot wait to wake him up at 7 a.m. just for kicks.



Why Do Kids Cry More On Days You’re Exhausted

I’ve noticed that kids seemed to be extra rambunctious on those days when I was feeling lousy. On the days that I have a bad headache, the kids were way more apt to be climbing the walls (and me). The more I needed them to be quiet, the louder they get. They were picking up on my distraction and found it scary; they were trying to drag my attention back.


Those of you who have kids have likely noticed the same thing. You come home from work dragging and everyone seems whinier. Or you wake up with that sore throat that’s going around and that’s the day your toddler decides that every little thing frustrates her and she can’t manage without your help.


And I don’t know about you, but my children are psychic and can sense when I get on the phone to have a nice long chat with a friend. Nothing brings them underfoot faster, right?


It’s not your imagination; your children are trying to reestablish the balance that feels safe to them. They want your eyes back on them. For children who have experienced loss or trauma, these reactions might be stepped up.


Teens do this, too, sometimes on a much larger scale. The teen years aren’t just about hormonal upheaval. Families have developmental stages just like individuals do and the developmental stage of preparing children to move up and away is hard on the system. Everyone is doing that weaning dance — stepping towards each other, stepping away — and sometimes the steps aren’t in sync. Parents may embrace the relative freedom of having a teen a little too forcefully, relaxing the rules and the supervision too much or too fast. Teens react by revving up unsafe behavior both because they can and because they may be unconsciously asking the parents to come close again.


When you recognize that your children are working to bring back balance and aren’t just trying to drive you crazy, you can figure out ways to do that while still taking care of yourself. On the days you need some quiet, you may find that if you can give some concentrated time to your child that she’ll be more willing to let you pull away later. Same goes for a teen that appears to want more of you. Building in some focused family time may help reassure them that you’re not expecting them to leave the nest just quite yet.



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